Trump won the election and a lot of people are suggesting we accept this and move on. Give him a chance.
Personally, I believe acceptance is an important spiritual principle. It allows us to live in a world that we don’t always agree with, and move past events that hurt us or those around us. Acceptance acknowledges that we are not the ultimate decider in the universe, that we can continue on making good choice while others make bad ones.
This is one kind of acceptance, one many of us live with every day. I accept my limitations and accept that the world is not a perfect place.
That is not the same as accepting or approving the actions of others when they are not ok. Donald Trump is now president-elect of the United States. I accept that fact. But that’s not the same as accepting this as ok. It isn’t.
Donald Trump is a sex predator. He’s a misogynist. He is racist, Islamophobic, homophobic, and abusive towards veterans, journalists, disabled people, and anyone who he finds unattractive. Worse, he actively attacks the groups he looks down on, using them as bait in his battle for acceptance.
Good people voted for him. Now we get to the harder level of acceptance. We are all mixed good/bad and we don’t always get things right. Some people we know well may have decided that voting for Trump was the right thing.
Most likely some sweet older relative is getting ready to show up at your Thanksgiving with pies and complaints about how these protesters don’t have respect.
Where do we go with this? I think it is still critical NOT to allow Trumpism to become a normal thing. We need to resist any inclusion in a “I guess we can all agree that…” attempt to do so. We don’t all agree. And the crazy aunt with the perfect pecan pie is just going to have to accept that as well.
I am not sure how to do this in practice because every interaction is a little different. The Southern Poverty Law Center has put out a pretty good resource, worth a read. My starting point is that I may not challenge everything anyone says, but I will definitely challenge any statement that assumes my acceptance.